Tough love from the higher-ups aside, just being in the hospital environment is enough to drive you home to bed. The problem is, bed is something that you gave up when you signed up for this career. With typical work weeks ranging from 50 to 80 hours and several nights a week spent on-call (meaning you have to stay overnight in the hospital to keep an eye on everybody's patients), you'll be lucky to get three hours of sleep on a cot in the back room. Some specialties aren't as bad as others--particularly the areas that deal with elective procedures, such as dermatology and pathology--but specialties that deal with the unexpected, such as trauma and transplant surgery, require more demanding hours. "Trauma is something that happens whenever it wants to, not just from 9 to 5. When it happens, you've got to get up, be up, and go in," says Aelony.
This is going to be the time that you pull some skills out of your toolbox that they might not have given you in med school. The first three to five months of residency will be the hardest, as your body adjusts to the lack of sleep, surplus of work, and constant reprimanding that comes with the territory. Once you physically adjust to the schedule, there are still the emotional aspects to deal with. "You've just got to be able to leave work behind and cool down. You're going to get yelled at, probably even sworn at by your attending, but you have to take it and just go on," says Aelony. "You're there because you like what you do, you chose to do it, and that will get you through it."
Certainly it helps to love your job, whether it's medicine or music. One of the benefits of a career that entails years of training is that by nature, the people that don't want or don't deserve to be there are weeded out, leaving only those dedicated to the field. These people, particularly your co-residents, are not only going to be the ones that you rely on in the workplace, but they'll be the ones with whom you talk about it later on--after all, not many others can understand what you're going through. Having a support network is key to balancing your work and home life, especially when your work life weighs as heavily as that of a resident's: "Whatever little simple pleasures you can have outside of the hospital are good things," says Aelony.
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